Post-90s Single Gay Dad Goes to the U.S. for IVF and Completes His Family!

Being single and having children are not mutually exclusive; living your own life well is what matters most. Mr. Z is a post-90s single father, currently living in Taiwan and working as an engineer. At the age of 32, he chose to have a pair of twins through IVF, achieving a complete family with both a son and a daughter. Today, we share his story—a story of a man who, completely alone, without a partner, without parental support, and without workplace childcare assistance, resolutely chose to have children, guided solely by the courage in his heart. Now, his children are already one year old and extremely adorable.

1. A Brave and Determined Journey to Parenthood

"Having children gives life direction and meaning, and it also motivates me to work harder," says Mr. Z.

Before making this decision, he carefully considered his options. "Not every man can find the right partner at the right time, and finding someone willing to walk through life together is even harder. But having children is something we can choose to do," he explained.

Mr. Z knew he was gay from a young age. Over the past 30 years, he had several partners, but none of the relationships lasted. His parents never fully understood him. Yet he openly admits that he loves children and wants a child for companionship.

In the summer of 2021, a friend invited him to join a gay dads group, where he met like-minded individuals, gained valuable information, and eventually connected with Uterus International Medical. Two months later, he made the most important decision of his life: signing a fertility contract. He didn’t worry about whether it was realistic—he simply made the decision.

After learning the specific procedures, Mr. Z traveled to the United States to begin pre-procedure examinations and egg selection. Over about a week, he completed sperm retrieval and embryo cultivation. In the end, four embryos were successfully developed—two female and two male—all healthy and ready for implantation. Following his wishes, a volunteer surrogate mother was selected. On October 10, she received an implantation of one male and one female embryo. On October 20, blood tests showed an hCG level of 112.48, confirming the pregnancy.

2. Becoming a Father: Learning to Be a Good Parent

In May 2022, Mr. Z’s children were born—a pair of fraternal twins. The first time he held his newborns, he said,

"The little ones were sleeping quietly. I wasn’t as emotionally overwhelmed as I imagined, but I felt the weight of responsibility on my shoulders. As a father, I have to work hard."

With the help of medical consultants, Mr. Z completed all the necessary paperwork, including birth certificates and paternity test reports. After completing all formalities, he brought the children back to Taiwan. As a single gay father, raising two children at once was a major challenge. Although he continued working his day job, his life completely revolved around his children.

"During the day I’m at work, so a nanny takes care of them. Around 5:30 pm, I return home to cook dinner and play with the kids. I try my best to spend time with them," he says. "Parenting is more important than giving birth. Since I chose to bring them into the world, I must take full responsibility. I play with them until 10 pm and feed them myself."

Having one’s own children brings both responsibility and motivation. Becoming a father is a proud milestone—never be afraid to embrace fatherhood.